Gentlemen, Valentine’s Day is upon us. Interestingly, this Hallmark Holiday is quite polarizing too. People either love it or hate it. There’s very little grey area. The reasons are pretty equal on each side of the argument: My wife and I are a good example of opposites attracting. I’m a hopeless romantic and she’s much more practical. I’ll plan grand gestures of romance, cloaked in secrecy for surprise, and deliver a symphony of Kodak moments we’ll cherish forever. It’s all orchestrated for my own satisfaction.
One of the hardest transitions in life happens after you become an adult. It isn’t a new job or new apartment of your own. It’s bigger than that. It’s moving from being someone’s son to someone’s husband, and for many men, becoming a father. You suddenly take on a new role and leave the old, kid-version of you behind. When you grow up and venture off to carve your own path, you leave behind those that spent your entire life to that point, carving a
Breaking up is hard to do. At the same time, staying in a relationship that doesn’t serve either party is also hard to do. Unfortunately, we are willing to do more of the latter that we are of the former, and that’s a disservice to ourselves and each other. Look, it sucks to break up, but it also sucks to be in an unhappy relationship. A fair amount of my clients (and emails I receive) ask what they should do to exit their unfulfilling relationships.
The 10 Dating Commandments for Men Dating has progressed from meeting people in public places and having conversation to swiping left or right and texting for hookups. Does it mean all hope for a real relationship is lost? I argue that no, all hope is not lost, but you must be aware of the rules of the game so you don’t fall victim to it. This goes for men and women. In this episode, I’m going to cover the 10 dating commandments for men – especially
Why would you want to know how to fight with your spouse? Because it’s a natural part of building a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Marriage in America has become something of a joke. Well, not really a joke – more of a statistical mess. Approximately half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. Clearly, we take commitment very seriously. There are many reasons marriages end, including: adultery (I wanted my cake…and some other cakes too) finances (I wanted more cake, but we always fought over our
Some lessons just need to be forgotten… It never ceases to amaze me how brilliant people can opt not to pursue their big ideas because old lessons they’ve learned are so deeply ingrained. What a tragedy it is to watch someone give up before he or she even begins. Some poor lessons we learned as early as childhood can still haunt us today. Even in my own business and personal life, I wrestle against lessons I have gleaned from past experience, my parents, friends, teachers,
Guide to The Four Agreements and More… Don Miguel Ruiz wrote The Four Agreements, and I’m sure you’ve no doubt read quotes from it and learned of these agreements from one source or another. Whether you read the book or not, I want to address each agreement from the gentleman’s perspective, and a few extra pieces that can help really bring it home in a big way. The basic four agreements are: Be impeccable with your word Don’t take anything personally Don’t make assumptions Always
Legacy is a funny thing. There are a myriad of outlets describing how to build your legacy these days, and yet we don’t really care much for it until we start noticing our impact on the world. Sometimes that means our children, sometimes it means our coworkers, sometimes it’s just our sudden realization that we’re going to die someday and we worry how we’ll be remembered. Whatever the catalyst, legacy becomes a buzz word for most men in their 30s, and only amplifies as the
Don’t worry, pictures and video are below… This post may be a little different than the usual educational style you’re used to. This post is simply me sharing more of my personal adventures with you. I’ve already shared my wedding proposal with you in a previous post, and this is the follow up. While it’s personal, please consider this a Gentleman’s guide to planning a fairytale wedding in Italy. Back in May of this year (2016), Jami and I headed off to Italy to tie
One of the most misused superpowers a man can have is the power to listen deeply. Millions of self-proclaimed “good listeners” are actually just listening well enough to keep a conversation going in his or her direction. Genuine listeners hear what isn’t being said, connect more deeply with their partner, and create a pathway for creative collaboration and power. This is incredibly important for any man trying to better himself and the world around him. Gentlemen, this is you (at least it should be). When